Family B’nai Mitzvah Program

5th to 7th Grade

The B’nai Mitzvah Process

3–4 years before your B’nai Mitzvah date (3rd/4th Grade)

Beginning the Journey—Ritual and Blessing

The sacred journey begins with other parents and clergy with a series of study sessions and inspirational experiences. 

  • Family orientation and choosing your B’nai Mitzvah date 
  • Small Group sessions with the clergy to orient families to the process

2 years before your B’nai Mitzvah date (5th Grade)

Sharing Our Stories and Helping Others—Community and Responsibility 

Continue your sacred journey as a family in your child’s age cohort, exploring themes of community and narrative. 

  • Families attend two study sessions with clergy: one small group session (Sharing our Stories) and one larger session (Helping Others) 
  • Our Operations Associate will contact you to discuss CRS space rental information and photo slots. 
  • The first installment of the B’nai Mitzvah Experience fee is due. See below for more information.  

1 year before your B’nai Mitzvah date (6th Grade)

Sacred Wellness & Dimensions of Tzedakah  

You and your child learn to apply techniques to ensure spiritual and personal growth and impact the world through social justice experiences. 

  • During CRS Discoveries Program and/or RSS hours, your child studies cantillation (trope) for their Torah and Haftarah portion, and participates in a service-learning program of study and action. 
  • Families attend two additional study session(s), a small group meeting with clergy and a session with West Side Campaign Against Hunger (WSCAH). 
  • For students with a Fall B’nai Mitzvah date, families will attend a D’var Torah Writing Workshop with Rabbi Spratt and Cantor De Lowe. Click here for the D’var Torah writing guidelines. Click here for sample D’vrei Torah. 
  • The second installment of the B’nai Mitzvah Experience fee is due. See below for more information.  

6–8 months before your B’nai Mitzvah date (7th Grade)

Our Purpose

You, your child, and clergy come together to explore your beliefs and why they matter, and to examine what this milestone means to you, your family, and your community. 

  • Families attend their final study session, “Our Truth”. 
  • For students with a Spring B’nai Mitzvah date, families will attend a D’var Torah Writing Workshop with Rabbi Spratt and Cantor De Lowe. Click here for the D’var Torah writing guidelines. Click here for sample D’vrei Torah. 
  • Families have an Initial Meeting with one of the cantors to outline the B’nai Mitzvah service training process. 
  • Your child begins twenty-minute weekly lessons with a tutor. 
  • Families will learn who will be officiating their child’s B’nai Mitzvah.

For the blessings chanted before and after the reading of the Torah and Haftarah, please click here.

For audio recordings of the blessings chanted before and after the reading of the Torah and Haftarah, please see below:

3–6 months before your B’nai Mitzvah date (7th Grade)

Learning and Intention

You and your child now understand the components of the sacred journey and know the next steps to take to reach your milestone. 

  • Each family attends a study session with a clergy member to begin their D’var Torah (speech). 

1 month before your B’nai Mitzvah date

The Joy of Leadership

As you near your simcha (celebration), final preparations are made so your child can feel confident on the bimah

  • Your child meets with the officiating rabbi for further edits to the D’var Torah. 
  • You receive information about selecting family members for aliyot (honors to the Torah) and other honors. 

The week of your B’nai Mitzvah

Purpose, Pride, Belonging

Mazal tov! You are about to embark on the most sacred journey of all—that of living a full Jewish life. 

  • Family rehearsal with the officiating Cantor on Wednesday or Thursday. 
  • Families will join Friday night services for the candle lighting and Kiddush.  
  • Get plenty of rest! 

Beyond B’nai Mitzvah

What’s Next?

We envision that all our B’nai Mitzvah continue their learning and growth through CRS Teen Programming including Confirmation and the Berlin trip in the 10th Grade.  Post their B’nai Mitzvah date, teens will hear from our youth staff and clergy to celebrate and hear about all of our teen program offerings. 

Whatever your teen’s interest, we have it all…

Classroom experiences
Paid internships
Mitzvah work
Social outings, trips, and more!

Keep the Experience Going! Click here for Teen program information.  

BMI Fees

Fees for the B’nai Mitzvah process are necessary due to the significant synagogue resources that will be invested in our children to enable them to reach this milestone. 

The B’nai Mitzvah Experience fee is currently $3,600 and covers the entire process of guidance and instruction from now through your child’s service including: 

The Family B’nai Mitzvah Program (FBMP), which is a multiple session, clergy-led program during 5th – 7th grade  

  • Formal instruction from our cantors, rabbis, and tutors, including one-on-one instruction in trope and chanting as well as meetings to create a personal D’var Torah (speech) 
  • Bimah flowers 
  • Additional security costs due to the number of guests who attend the service 

The B’nai Mitzvah Experience fee is billed in two installments with payment due upon receipt of the bill. The first installment of $1562 is billed two fiscal years before your child’s B’nai Mitzvah date. One fiscal year prior to your child’s date, you will see another charge for $2,038 (which includes costs associated with the flowers and security), completing your total payment of $3,600.   

With Support from The Scott and Pam Schafler Family Fund

SHOLOM SPROUTS
Expecting – 3 Years
SHOLOM ADVENTURES
Pre-K – 2nd Grade
SHOLOM DISCOVERIES
3rd – 7th Grade
TEENS
8th – 12th Grade
RODEPH SHOLOM SCHOOL
Nursery – 8th Grade
YOUTH GROUPS
3rd – 7th Grade
B’NAI MITZVAH
5th – 7th Grade